The past week I had the privilege to attend a Coaching Mastery Class. I came seeking to gain new coaching skills, which I did. But God also laid upon my heart a fresh new coaching mindset which is so critical if I want to succeed as a good coach.
Eli and Samuel
In 1 Samuel 3:1-10 we read about how God first spoke to Samuel. Eli’s part in this story is both interesting and instructive for us (in life and in coaching).
What did Eli do?
– he asked Samuel to ‘respond and listen’, and to be open
What did he not do?
– he did not say ‘let me find out what God has to say to you…’; let me tell you exactly what you need to do.
Essentially, Eli trusted God to speak for himself. He also had confidence that Samuel can hear for himself.
The need to instruct
As strange as this may sound, I must admit that sometimes I don’t trust the Holy Spirit enough on what he’s doing, how he’s orchestrating things, or his timing to get it done.
I often sense the need to ‘tell them’ if I see some obvious thing coming. I feel that my input would be helpful, and maybe even instructive. Fact is, this speaks more to my pride than my desire for their growth or success.
He’s involved in every conversation whether we acknowledge it or not. Obviously, if we tune in to him, we find greater alignment to His will.
The Holy Spirit coaching my son
I had the opportunity mid-week to apply this important coaching mindset with my youngest child. He had gotten into a fight with his mom. I could hear him crying on the phone when I called. Typically, I would quickly ask him to apologize to mom, and set things right.
However this time, I was prompted to use some of my newly acquired coaching skills, and asked instead: ‘How did that make you feel?’ – an open question, which led him to openly share some of the raw emotions rising up in him (He’s 10). After a few more minutes of unpacking, with less and less tears, I could sense he had gain new awareness and perspective. I then asked ‘What part do you think you play in this…? (another good open question!) =) And this time, he confessed to his own part, and said he would make it right with mom.
I was sure the Holy Spirit led him to this conclusion and conviction. It wasn’t my words.
What did I learn?
Laying off the reprimand (from me), especially when prompted by the Holy Spirit, ask good coaching/open questions, and allowing the Holy Spirit to work in his own way and own time.
How about you? Have you, like me, tried to play jr. holy spirit too?
Some comments from our first ever Digital Day of Outreach at Lake Hart.
I really enjoyed the opportunity to take some time to engage friends online with the gospel. In addition to chatting with several people who watched the #FallingPlates video, I also connected with quite a few friends and relatives via FaceBook and Skype. It was good to remember how easy it is to spend even a short time to take a step of faith and reach out to people right from my laptop. I am excited to follow up more with a cousin who I chatted with a while whom I hadn’t been in touch with for a long time.
– Erik B
It was a wonderful experience. I had the opportunity to connect with some family I haven’t spoken to in a while who I know are not believers and several of them took the time to watch the video. One of my cousins even reached out to me after watching the video to thank me for sharing. I am so excited to see what the future will look like for this tool. I’m so thankful I got to be a part of the Digital Day of Outreach.
– Angel M
I really like the outreach today. I was able to connect with a FB friend who also make surf films in CA. He is open to hearing more about Jesus so I’m going to send him some short films that I have worked on here. Praying for him to really know Jesus and give his life to our Lord.
– John I
I was impressed with the tremendous possibilities to reach such a broad group of people so quickly. This presents a wonderful opportunity to start spiritual conversations in a very nonthreatening way. And then even opens possibilities for on going growth. Thanks for sharing this opportunity!
– Don T
I was able to share it with friends in Kuwait and Guatemala. What an easy way to get the message out worldwide.
– Lynn M
Read more about Lake Hart Digital Day of Outreach here.
Want to learn how you can run your very own DDO (Digital Day of Outreach)? Check out this very helpful resource site done by our Philippine CCC ministry.
“Coaching is an ongoing intentional conversation that empowers a person to fully live out God’s calling.”
– Keith Webb, The COACH Model
I asked Miheret when I visited with him in Ethiopia to give us tips on how to have meaningful impact through FaceBook. He and his team has a track record of very successful FaceBook campaigns.
In this video, he shares a few simple yet effective tips on how to maximize your impact when using FaceBook for ministry. Enjoy.
I confess. ‘Broken’ is never one of my favorite words. I don’t like broken things, broken promises, broken lives… or be broken, or admit that I am… broken.
But the past few years, it’s the journey God has had me on. To discover, to get in touch, and to be ‘ok’ with my own brokenness. I’ve always wondered why ‘brokenness’ was such an prominent theme in my church. Now I understand. We cannot see or please God if we’re not fully broken before Him. But more about that next time.
As I lean harder into His grace, I become more acquainted with a God that not only understands brokenness, but is broken for us. (Isaiah 53:5)
The Christian faith is often a paradox, a mystery. Try as we might, our limited minds simply cannot wrap around godly ideas or concepts. Thankfully, God has it, and His plans are always good, like Good Friday (read ‘Why Good Friday is good‘). While we might reject it, ridicule it, God’s will stands. And He is still good.
Broken yet made whole. That’s what this 4-min short-film expertly illustrates. Desire to be healed? Acknowledge the One who can bring the ultimate and complete healing to this brokenness we ALL have in our lives.
Will you follow Him?
Will you give him your broken pieces, COME to the God who specializes in making GOOD the broken things?
He’s waiting for you…
Confession is good for your soul…but not for your reputation
I’m no different. I struggle with the desire to have a good reputation. I want others to like me. But a good friend once told me leaders are meant to grow publicly. As much as I resist that, I know it’s where God grows me the most… when I live with nothing to prove, nothing to lose, nothing to hide.
“Dear God, I confess that Your grace is all you need. Your power works best in weakness. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me” (2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT)
Well, technically this teenager grew up in my house! =) In fact, I raised him. It just feels like in the blink of an eye, this once cute little ‘chubbee bunnee’ (yes, that’s what we used to call him) is no longer cute, nor chubby. But has instead grown tall, bony, and strong! A fine young man in the making. How did that happen? 13 years has whizzed by just like that. I often wish I could have done more, building the foundations in his life, but I also know he’s in God’s hands. I look forward to the teenage years, and the many more God-given opportunities to speak into his life.
I must admit that I miss those years when he was little, but I’m also very glad to see how my boy has grown… and (thankfully) his physical stature mirroring his growth in other areas of his life – his character, his love, care and respect for his friends and family, and most of all his sensitivity to God’s work in his life.
Josh, I know I’ve said this to you time and again… but I want you to know that you are SUCH a blessing to us, God’s wonderful gift to Mommy and me. We love you! Happy Birthday!
– Dependent on God
– Attentive to His voice
– Obedient to follow
– Effective in his service
– Faithful to press on
Kennedy Nsom is from Cameroon, he’s the VLM leader for Francophone Africa (16 countries). Miheret Tilahun is from Ethiopia, he’s the VLM leader for Southern and Eastern Africa (19 countries). They both give leadership to digital strategies for their area. It’s a privilege to be given the opportunity to coach these two passionate and godly leaders.