I’ve been struggling.. struggling to love my kids…
just yesterday i was just thinking to myself.. i don’t think I can handle this anymore… can’t wait for them to grow up quickly.. sigh! And I felt bad thinking like that.
But how… they are driving me nuts! I know I’m complaining… can’t help it.
Then tonight as I was reading an article in a magazine.. it hit me.. that love is a choice. and it applies to my love for my kids. Further, love is unconditional or should be unconditional. I’ve been wanting more than perfect kids.. who don’t throw tantrums, don’t whine, don’t pee & poop on the floor, obey everything I say…etc. =(
“Lord, help me love the kids you’ve given me… unconditionally.. not only when they are obedient and nice, but even when they act up and are impossible. Help me understand and see that you love me just the same.. even when I act up, whine, and don’t obey!”
Uncle Simon 🙂
You know, when the Word says, “We love because He first loved us”, I am reminded. I love my parents so much because they first loved me. Even when I was impossible (I still am sometimes), even when I was ugly, sick, impatient, angry, upset, emotional and less than perfect. Even though they’ve fallen too, and aren’t perfect- they’ve said things that hurt, etc… but, I still love them. And, that’s largely cos 1) I know they love me. 2) I know how much God loves me, especially through them.
So, this choice you say? I tend to confuse love with the way I feel. For me, that means that just because I don’t feel like I like the person anymore, doesn’t mean I don’t love her. I never had a doubt in mind that in your moments of anger, and frustration, you still loved them.
OK, so I’m going a whole round just to say a simple thing. I know God loves you. I know you love the kids. And I’m only here to encourage you to love them more. Love hurts sometimes, but, we gain so much in choosing love.
I’m not sure if this is encouraging at all, haha, I gotta work on building people up, even my mentors 🙂
Love ya.
Uncle Simon 🙂
You know, when the Word says, “We love because He first loved us”, I am reminded. I love my parents so much because they first loved me. Even when I was impossible (I still am sometimes), even when I was ugly, sick, impatient, angry, upset, emotional and less than perfect. Even though they’ve fallen too, and aren’t perfect- they’ve said things that hurt, etc… but, I still love them. And, that’s largely cos 1) I know they love me. 2) I know how much God loves me, especially through them.
So, this choice you say? I tend to confuse love with the way I feel. For me, that means that just because I don’t feel like I like the person anymore, doesn’t mean I don’t love her. I never had a doubt in mind that in your moments of anger, and frustration, you still loved them.
OK, so I’m going a whole round just to say a simple thing. I know God loves you. I know you love the kids. And I’m only here to encourage you to love them more. Love hurts sometimes, but, we gain so much in choosing love.
I’m not sure if this is encouraging at all, haha, I gotta work on building people up, even my mentors 🙂
Love ya.